So a year ago today, right around this time, I was reunited with Angeline VanHalle after being apart for a month, and Claudia and I were both able to give her a big hug and kiss. We were all run-down, beat-up and exhausted…I think. I mean, ...it’s the only thing that makes sense, right?
I had been up for 30+ hours, traveling with an upset toddler the entire time, including a five hour layover in JFK after a 6 hour flight. Angie had to take a Nursing Exam the morning that we were scheduled to get home – she finished it and drove right to the airport to pick us up. Claudia still had a lot of adjusting left to do. I had a massive headache from having lost my broken glasses, and the eyestrain it caused me to try to read signs in the airports. Angie hadn’t been sleeping well, and the additional stress of Claudia and I being so far away was really taking its toll - on top of her last semester of school. The house we were going home to wasn’t big enough for us all, and wasn’t as finished as I wanted it to be.
But I have to work pretty hard to remember all of that, just a year later. What I do remember is the feeling of holding Angie again after being apart. Of stepping off the plane with Claudia knowing that she is now a US Citizen, and that we’re almost home. Getting home and falling asleep with my wife and daughter. Appreciating that I can reach out and take my wife’s hand whenever I want – not having to use Skype to talk to her. Seeing Angie and Claudia together again, after way too little time in Colombia. Even if I wanted to, I don’t think I could forget these moments. And then getting to go to Noah’s birthday party as a family, where this picture was taken by Ben Schoenfelder.
I had been up for 30+ hours, traveling with an upset toddler the entire time, including a five hour layover in JFK after a 6 hour flight. Angie had to take a Nursing Exam the morning that we were scheduled to get home – she finished it and drove right to the airport to pick us up. Claudia still had a lot of adjusting left to do. I had a massive headache from having lost my broken glasses, and the eyestrain it caused me to try to read signs in the airports. Angie hadn’t been sleeping well, and the additional stress of Claudia and I being so far away was really taking its toll - on top of her last semester of school. The house we were going home to wasn’t big enough for us all, and wasn’t as finished as I wanted it to be.
But I have to work pretty hard to remember all of that, just a year later. What I do remember is the feeling of holding Angie again after being apart. Of stepping off the plane with Claudia knowing that she is now a US Citizen, and that we’re almost home. Getting home and falling asleep with my wife and daughter. Appreciating that I can reach out and take my wife’s hand whenever I want – not having to use Skype to talk to her. Seeing Angie and Claudia together again, after way too little time in Colombia. Even if I wanted to, I don’t think I could forget these moments. And then getting to go to Noah’s birthday party as a family, where this picture was taken by Ben Schoenfelder.
To me, this picture represents what comes from willingly facing adversity, and overcoming it. The look of contentment on Claudia’s face was one we thought we might never see. The smile you can just barely see on Angie’s face - from something as simple as combing her daughter’s hair. These things don’t come easily, but they are more than worth it. It won’t feel like it when you’re facing them, but the obstacles you face will turn into nothing more than milestones with time. You’ll look back on the catastrophes and they’ll just be another story to share.
And the good memories get even better. Happy Homecoming day Claudia – it’s almost impossible to believe that it’s been a year already.
And Happy Valentine’s Day Ang – Eleven of these ago, I never would have dreamed this is where we would be, or understood the joy that comes from living a life with such purpose. And I know that I wouldn’t be the man than I am, or have the life that I do if you weren’t a part of it.\
Cross-posted from my Facebook page.
